Creating healthy, long-lasting relationships

Transform Your Relationships with Simple, Effective Communication

Discover how the Relationship Timer helps you nurture and deepen conversations

We believe that clear and compassionate communication is the cornerstone of healthy and long-lasting relationships. The Safe Harbor Method is our simple yet powerful technique designed to help you navigate difficult conversations, strengthen your connections and foster intimacy with the people who matter most. Whether you're seeking to improve your personal relationships or enhance your practice as a therapist or coach, our method offers a structured approach that is easy to learn and implement.

The Safe Harbor Method is easy to use

Why It Works

The Safe Harbor Method is easy to learn, accessible to everyone and can be used in any type of relationship.

Real stories, real transformations

  • “Using the Safe Harbor method you hear and feel the other person, which diffuses a lot of the negative emotions. I highly recommend people try it with their primary relationships!”

    - JL

  • "We started using the SHM and found that it provides a foundation of safety when my wife and I get into a difficult discussion or point of contention...It's been revolutionary!"

    - SS

  • "I have been using the Safe Harbor Method with my partner for 4 years now and it has completely changed our relationship. It has provided us with a deep well of safety in our relationship."

    - DR

  • "Using the SHM is easily one of the most useful tools in feeling heard, loved and human. After plenty of traditional therapy sessions, I have found that this simple and effective method has done what months of work can do in just minutes."

    - JR

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You may still have some questions…

  • The Safe Harbor Method is a communication tool used to nurture and deepen conversations within any relationship or small group, as well as helping to navigate difficult conversations. The Safe Harbor Method is effective because it is easy to learn, easily accessible and free!

  • The Safe Harbor Method is easy to learn, accessible to everyone and can be used in any type of relationship.

  • There are countless books, workshops, communication systems, etc. and yet the divorce rate is still around 50%. But there is something very different and effective we can do. Something that we can do at home and fits into our busy schedules. And it’s free.

  • The best time to use the SHM is when you notice you’re feeling upset with an important person in your life. You’re getting frustrated or angry or feel yourself pulling away. You might notice you’re having critical thoughts or perhaps you notice the tightening of your jaw or stomach.

    This is when you want to ask them to have a SHM conversation with you agreeing to follow the 3 Agreements and using the Timer.

    See the Self-Guided Sessions page for more about how to do this.

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